Grace

Question

I'm 27 years old and I'm coming up on my second year as a nurse, and I'm so proud of myself. But I'm mourning, mourning my mother missing her deeply, mourning all the change in my life. I feel like I've gained and lost everything, nothing is the same and I believe that all this lack of comfortability is for my growth, but it's hard. My question is how I do I give myself more grace, how do I make this season one of ease instead of one of sadness.

Glacier’s Response:

First I want to say congratulations on completing your first year of nursing school! That’s a huge accomplishment, and I know personally how many long nights you’ve spent studying and preparing. I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. My deepest condolences for your loss. The pain from losing a parent, especially a mother, is one I know all too well. It seems like you have experienced a lot of changes recently, and I know that it can feel overwhelming, especially without your mom.

I agree with you that oftentimes we can grow the most in times of hardship. My advice to you is to be gentle and patient with yourself. Grief is fickle. It comes and goes. Some days it may be tolerable, other days it’s allconsuming. Allow yourself to both mourn and honor the things and people you’ve lost. What are some ways you can honor your mother’s memory? Maybe watching her favorite movie or eating at her favorite restaurant? You can mourn your mom and the things you’ve lost while also celebrating her life and new things to come. 

As you honor those memories, you give your sadness a place to rest and the sharpness of grief softens. I hope this helps. Wishing you a safe, soft and gentle journey. 

xoxo

-Glacier